In my opinion, a good way to start this blog is to explain a few of the reasons I believe being single is not the end of the world. Many people associate the world single with the word alone, but this is rarely the case. I, myself, have been single for the vast majority of my life, but I have never been truly alone. Surrounded by friends and family, or even more casual relationships such as co-workers or classmates, one is not cut off from all social interaction simply because they are not currently romantically attached to another human being. This attachment, as a matter of fact, has its downsides.
Along with the cute ‘good morning’ texts and the promise of a date on valentine’s day, relationships also tend to bring with them newfound hobbies, interests and personality traits, some of which are not entirely appealing. Granted, one of the key aspects of any sucessful relationship is compromise, but in some instances, one person does all of the compromising, constantly changing themselves until they are no longer sure what they were like before the relationship started. This may seem dramatic, but I have seen it happen on many occassions. This brings me to the first reason I see being single as a positive; the fact that being single forces you to be your own person.
Being perpetually single, as I, and assumingly the vast majority of this blog’s readers are, generates a strong sense of self and makes it much more difficult for a relationship to change you. On the other hand, jumping from relationship to relationship simply for the companionship and not because of an actual desire to be with each person creates a dependancy, and typically results in you as an individual being forgotten. This is not to say that all relationships damage the entity of the individual, but just that being single allows one the time to consider what they want out of life (or even a relationship for that matter).
Being single also means that you are essentially free to do what you please. You don’t need to worry about whether hanging out with a specific friend will offend your significant other, or debate about what constitutes flirting. For those just exiting relationships, this also means getting to go to that restaurant your ex hated but you’ve always loved and watching tv marathons without judgement. These may seem trivial in comparison to a serious, loving relationship, but there is a lot to be said for the importance of freedom.
Seeing as this blog is not out to bash relationships though, I will also say this: being single allows you to appreciate a good relationship. The single life is great, for the reasons I’ve stated and of course many others, but for some people, life within a relationship is a better fit. For these people, being single gives them the perspective to recognize a good relationship, and the drive to work towards maintaining it. The aforementioned sense of self will allow them to hold out for what they deserve, but it will also guide them towards people more aligned with their thoughts, values and life goals as to ensure a more healthy and lasting relationship in the long run.
Last, but definitely not least, I can’t discuss the upsides of being single without mentioning the serenity of having the bed to yourself. Sure, cuddling can be fun, but nothing feels better after a long day at school/work/the gym etc. than falling into bed and being able to stretch out, knowing that the covers will remain in your possession until morning.