Welcome back friends! Now that I’ve (hopefully) convinced you that being single has its benefits, I’m going to share how you can use your single status to benefit others as well! Selfless? Yea, I know.
This, of course, is done by being the best Single Sidekick you can be. Now, don’t get too hung-up on the word sidekick. I did not choose it to symbolize a lower worth for the single girl, but rather, I chose it because although we are the leading ladies in our own lives, we also need to be there for our friends in a supportive role when they need us.
With your single friends – As a Single Sidekick, you are usually going to be the one your friends call when they get dumped and need to vent. This is where you show up with ice cream, pizza, and any/all other comfort food necessary for a satisfying after breakup binge. Don’t worry though, it’s not all tears and inspirational “you were always too good for him (or her as the case may be)” speeches, because once you’ve returned your friend to her confident and spunky self you’re also the one she calls to go do awesome new activities or take spontaneous trips. This is where you get to assume the typical “wingwoman” role, as she will for you, and have fun making great memories with even greater people.
With your couple friends – When out for a girls night, uninvited “advances” are almost a given. To avoid awkwardness and become the hero of the night, it is a good idea to “jump on the grenade” by distracting and redirecting the annoyance elsewhere. Single Sidekick to the rescue or what? Although “I have a boyfriend” or even “I’m married” should send them packing, sometimes desperation (usually mixed with some liquid courage) makes any woman seem like fair game. In this situation, a Single Sidekick may also seize the opportunity to redirect the group. I’m not suggesting you run away scared, or leave because you feel uncomfortable – you have just as much right to be there as anyone else – but if the night is trailing off this is the perfect excuse to reboot the evening and head off to a new and exciting activity.
When your couple friends have kids – The offer of free babysitting is always a nice gesture. Allowing your friends to take a break and rejoin the social world for a night will not only leave them more relaxed, but will also allow you to enjoy a night in and earn you brownie points to boot! Couples often have the misconception that single life is an endless cycle of disposable income and late night adventures, but it is always nice to change pace and see how the other half lives, even just for a night.
Consider this post my Single Sidekick bat-signal on behalf of all of your friends. Go forth, and be the best Single Sidekick you can!
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